Opting Out and/or Opting In?

Opting out? Staying home with the kids? Choosing to get back in the work chaos? Are you a women who at mid-career, in your thirties or early forties decided to opt-out and stay home with the kids? Or did you stay home all along and now are wondering if you should/could/ go back to work …

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Women and Stress — ARGH!

Do you think you experience more stress than the average women? Or are you more stressed than the average man? Do you cope with stress well or become emotional and can’t think straight?  The Stressed Sex, a new book by Daniel and Jason Freeman is interesting, focusing on mental health differences between the genders. Here …

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Neuroplasticity — Key to Breaking Negative Self-Talk Habit

Diminish Negative Self-Talk and Learn Realistic Thinking Here’s a link to a video that explains the concept of neuroplasticityl — and demonstrates how you can start to break the negative self-talk habit and begin to build the realistic self-talk habit! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ELpfYCZa87g For a quick review of negative self-talk habit, check out /break-negative-self-talk-habit-for-beginners-re-starters

Negative Emotions, Created by Negative Thinking, Can be Beneficial?

Negative Self-Talk, Negative Thoughts, Negative Emotions Although intelligentwomenonly.com started out and continues to focus on women’s negative self-talk habit, a recent spate of studies/articles points out that, “Negative emotions are essential for mental health,” according to Tori Rodrigues’s article “Taking the Bad with the Good” from Scientific American Mind, May/June 2013. What are negative emotions? …

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Avoiding the Seduction of a Habit — with A New Habit

A metaphor for breaking habits This quote comes from the Journal of the Order of Buddhist Contemplatives, Autumn 2005 and was introduced to the meditation group recently by one of the participants. “When Ulysses was finally returning to his home in Greece after the Trojan War victory, a place along the way …

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Boosting Spatial Relationship Skills for Girls

Boosting Spatial Relationship Skills for Girls — with help from Annie Murphy Paul   A friend of mine who works in the travel, tours and hotel booking industry, once referred to me as “directionally challenged” when I lost my way on a run while visiting her and almost missed my plane. I absolutely agreed with her and recognized that figuring out directions are a subset of the …

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Improve Your Resistance to Stress

Do you want to improve your ability to cope with stress? Of course you do! The better you manage the effects of internal and external stressors on your body, brain, and mind, the healthier, calmer, more productive, and brighter in the moment you’ll be. Constant high levels of stress can damage brains, …

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Negative Self-talk Creates Stress and Decreases Brain Fitness

What’s the effect of stress on brain fitness? Neither brains or bodies function well when under too much stress. A sharpbrains.com post notes, “Liv­ing with high lev­els of sus­tained stress can have a pro­found neg­a­tive impact on your psy­cho­log­i­cal and brain health. While often there is lit­tle we can do to change …

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Negative Self-Talk Can’t Be Eliminated, But . . .

The negative self-talk habit — or any habit for that matter — can never be eliminated. It will always be hiding someplace in our brain, ready to jump into action when triggered by an old cue; just as you don’t forget how to ride a bicycle. Even when we’ve established a solid replacement habit, for …

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Intelligent Women: Leading from Fear or Love?

Do women lead by fear? I don’t think so. Should they? I don’t know. In my experience many women, in many ages and phases of life, parenting, leading, following, volunteering, partnering are doing what they’re doing by love not fear. Here’s a quote from a Harvard Business …

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